Fear and It’s Destructive Effects Part 2
Never Let Fear Conquer You
Let’s talk about the destructive affects of fear in this part two article! This week has been pretty rough on my family and me. I found out that I was being extended a “release” from a position of responsibility in the church. This is a natural thing, in our church, you usually don’t have people who serve as leaders for decades on end. Unless you are in one of the most crucial roles of the church. Even our Bishops are extended releases after a period. And when I heard this news fear gripped me. Fearful that I was being released for wrong doings of a few months back it had an adverse effect on me for sure.
Learn From What I Say, Don’t Do what I do!
This is something you hear a lot growing up in the African American home. But I say this to you with all of the love that I have within me. As a human I let that fear conquer me today. Instead of being productive I stayed sleep for most of the day depressed and wallowing in that fear. I wasted a whole day! I’m glad I did not stay lying down, but I could have.
How can we overcome our fears?
When I started this series, I did not want to focus on my fears. But when I began to think about how we deal with fears I had to evaluate my concerns themselves. So I’ve illustrated in my last post the adverse effects that fear has on us. Now I want to talk about how we can overcome them. Because what good is it to focus on the negative things? So I think the first thing that we have to look at is what causes our fears? I believe in God, and I think a lot of it stems from a lack of faith in God. If we have faith in God, we can trust that what happens to us is going on for us.
Overcoming Fear Helps Us to Become Strong. The Stronger we come, the more easily courage comes.
Courage is a rehearsed emotion. Many of the trials that come in our lives are to help us learn lessons from them. As we overcome individual trials and hurdles, we increase in our belief that we can overcome anything. And if you trust in God as I do, you know that as long as you have God with you, you can overcome anything. So the first part of overcoming fear to me is knowing you are human and that fear is a reasonable reaction to certain issues sometimes. When you’re able to sense yourself becoming afraid you can begin to be analytical of your feelings and your ability to start to be courageous which is the opposite of fear.
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Step One in Overcoming Destructive Fear is Knowing When you have fear!
Step one is knowing that you’re afraid. I know that sounds very simple, but it’s more complicated than you can believe. Today in Sunday School I taught on honesty and mostly what was said was that being honest with ourselves is probably one of the hardest things to do. We like to lie to ourselves because we don’t want to believe in bad things about ourselves. But in my last lesson I talked about the by products of fear, use that as a list to tell when fear is around.
Step Two in Overcoming Destructive Fear – Recognize That Fear Is Rooted Deep in Us!
A different website talked about that fear can be rooted in traumatic events and childhood. I agree with this assessment because a lot of times we don’t have current stimuli for fear but are regressing through events of the past. I’m also one to think therapy with a therapist can do amazing wonders in this regard. I can be sincere in stating that I have a therapist! Part of me is so sincerely grateful for her help in my emotional well-being.
I am also taking classes in Christian Counseling because I want to start a practice coaching and helping others! But we need to recognize whether we are fearful because of our immediate surroundings (i.e. being afraid in a tornado or a robbery situation) versus past events that can be triggered by current events which are unrelated (i.e. rape in the past causing you to have a fear of being around men, etc.i)
Step Three In HowIDeal With Fear is Trust in God.
This is where i verge off the common path that most therapists or blogs have. I believe that when we come to God and we grow in our relationship with him our fears all go away. I believe in what the Bible says on the subject.
“There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.” – 1 John 4:18
It is stated in the bible that God is Love. If he is love, then we we believe in him we know that all things work for our good (Romans 8:28). When we have faith in him we know that every event in our life is orchastrated by him and if we trust and have faith in him we know that these things too shall pass. This year has been very tough for me, all of you who have read my blog know this. But i have learned so much about God and his love for us this year that while i wish i did not have to pass through this, i’ve learned that i’ve grown through this.
In the next part of our series we will continue to delve into ways we can overcome fear in our lives! I hope you have a blessed week!